Growth Mindset & Self Worth

I saw something pretty incredible on Saturday night.  It was stunning.  It was beautiful.  It was fun, and crazy.  And it was awe-inspiring.

It was Taylor Swift in concert.

I've been to a Taylor show before.  This was actually my third.  The first time I went, I honestly had no idea who Taylor really was.  I simply went to chauffeur and chaperone my daughter.  By the second concert, I was a closet fan.  This time I was fully engaged - ogling at the souvenir tables, dancing in my seat, and singing lyrics at the top of my voice.  She has won me over.

Yet this time, she was different.  She was more human.  She was more vulnerable.  And she talked to the girls (& boys) in the audience about something she has never done before and it struck a chord with me.  She said, "You are not the opinion of someone else's choosing."  She spoke a lot about making mistakes and allowing those mistakes to make you stronger, not tear you down.  She talked about not beating ourselves up inside with words of self-doubt or self-hate.  

Yes, she may have a lot of songs about break ups and love stories gone wrong, but she also sings about being strong, not wallowing in that break up, not being all emo and falling into a pit of despair over a boy.  She teaches young girls that it's okay to lose at love, because self-love is better than any other love that is out there.  That you must get to know yourself and love who you are and who you were meant to be, that you can't let a man control your world.  And this concert, she actually told the young girls, like my daughter, that.  It was beautiful the way she talked to the audience and admitted her own doubts and self-realizations.  I only wish I had gotten my phone out sooner and captured more of this moment.  It was truly beautiful.

I know I have some friends and mothers who don't like Taylor Swift.  But if this young lady can come out on stage and wear the modest attire she wears, not shake her tongue, twerk her butt, flaunt "f" bombs and do what else is considered "hip" now a days, she has a vote from me.  If she can speak to my daughter about real world issues like self-love, self-doubt, confidence, and more and help bolster the messages I try to send then she has my admiration.  And if she can do it all while singing a catchy tune and dancing out a story, then that is one awesome female role model and I'm all for her having a piece of influence in my daughter's life.  In my honest opinion, we need more strong females, having more honest heartfelt discussions with our girls, just like this one.  I'm not one to turn that opportunity away.